When was the last time you had sex? If your answer is along the lines of “It hasn’t been that long.. has it?”, you might want to sit down and schedule your next sex date. Of course, that doesn’t sound sexy or romantic. Why should you

1. It’s Good For Your Relationship

Maybe you’ve been busy with the new PTA, angling for that promotion for work or redoing your kitchen. We get it, you’re busy. But have you been so preoccupied that you forgot to get busy? The benefits of sex are myriad, and there’s no doubt about it that sex is good for your relationship. It keeps you connected and helps you reconnect. Selflessly pleasing your partner makes you feel powerful, and the pleasure of sex and an orgasm is only enhanced by sharing it with someone who you care about — and who cares about you in return!

So let your partner know that sex is on the menu. He’ll likely salivate at the thought of your impending romp.

2. Scheduling Sex Can Rev Your Engine

Planning a sex date might seem like wasted effort if you just haven’t been in the mood lately, but hear us out. Sometimes knowing that sex happens can be the perfect aphrodisiac that gets you in the mood. As you plan details, what you’ll wear and what you want to happen, desire might return to you.

Plus, having sex more frequently can keep your libido steady. The less sex you have, the less you may want to have. The more you have, the more you want it. So make sex a habit.

3. It Relieves Stress

You don’t need a partner for sex to be a good stress-reliever; although it might help. Sex works as a wonderful sex relieve (doubly so it if you pair it with a sensual massage!). As your body literally releases tension with orgasm, you’ll feel calmer. So if you’ve had a bad day — or week — at work or the kids seem to like playing with your last nerve, sex might be just what the doctor ordered. Don’t be surprised if you sleep better after your sextracurricular activities, too.

4. It’s Good For Your Health

Sex is the sort of moderate activity that increases your heart rate — and you might even sweat it out. Health benefits of sex range from lowered blood pressure to an improved immune system, and it can even help mitigate pain such as the cramps from your period. A man’s prostate also benefits from frequent sex. A healthy sex life helps many people sleep better, and sleep itself has plenty of benefits (it’s good for your skin and waistline to name just two).

5. It Doesn’t Just Happen

We’re not just going to tell you about the benefits of sex. You probably understand them. Hell, you might be telling your friends that they should go get some. But sex doesn’t just happen. Sure, you’re all over each other in the beginning, and many couples maintain that heat throughout their entire relationships. We can’t pretend it’s not normal for other things to get in the way and take priority over sex. So if you don’t schedule it, you might not have any, and that’s no way to live!

Scheduling sex doesn’t mean you enter something on your shared Google Calendar; although, you certainly could do that. You might slip a note in his lunchbox before work, send a scintillating picture message on your lunch break or whisper something in his ear as he leaves that hints at what’s to come. When date night comes, you might go for dinner or skip right to dessert. Go ahead, you earned it!