HOW TO BUILD UP YOUR SPOUSE

The other day my husband was looking in the mirror, assessing his (not at all) receding hairline and (almost) 39-year-old body and he asked me bluntly, “Am I looking old?” I sprung to attention right away. I mean, I’m the one usually asking about my hair, my skin, my post-baby tummy, so to hear my… Read more »

THE FIVE STAGES OF GRIEF

On the last Saturday in September, on a still warm Pacific Northwest afternoon, friends and family gathered at my grandparents’ beach house on the shores of Case Inlet to say goodbye to my mother. The setting was informal, the attire casual, the food potluck. It would have felt more like a summer barbecue than a… Read more »

THIS IS HEAVEN AND WE ARE GOD

It’s taken me decades, but I am finally making peace with death. Oh, I still wake up at 3am in a panic; stomach churning, throat constricting, horrified by the idea of ceasing to exist. But that notion makes NOW so much more important. Thing is, when I believed in the religious (Mormon) fairytale of an… Read more »